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DIVYA BHALLA, ANMAY’S MA

Dear BB (all our wonderful teachers, our watchman uncle and akkas),

I have felt gratefulness to you all at various stages in our time together, every time I see a positive influence/experience with Anmay or with us as parents and in all the much-needed parenting sessions, the firm and yet gentle approaches with kids n parents alike.

My worries about Anmay starting his schooling in the right environment was all put to rest with BB - dedicated teachers, teaching the fun way and yet disciplining the child, instilling importance of values and creating a family like environment at school.

I have said this time n time over again -thank you for the peace you brought into a mother’s life - a restful mind when it comes to my sweet child being in the right hands.

Even during this pandemic, where Montessori requires a very different approach, you all adapted so well to the online medium and we were always amazed with the work material being created and presented to the kids. Hats off to you BB!

Even during this really closed up period, the gates of BB were always open for the kids to relax and enjoy the garden, play area, feed the little bunnies around, grow and harvest their plants and remain connected with the school and their happy memories!

We are all just praying and hoping for that beautiful tomorrow to return soon when the kids can be back in the physical presence of their teachers and friends to imbibe, learn and connect in ways far beyond the limitations of the virtual world.

 

VIJAYASRI AND MADHUKAR RAO - PARENTS OF MADHURA & KESHAV

The Montessori curriculum at Bright Beginnings is designed to create joyful and effective learning experiences for young children. Here, children explore and interact with different learning materials at their own pace and develop an innate love for learning. My twins started school here as toddlers and blossomed beautifully in a loving and nurturing environment. Kudos to their dedicated teachers and caretakers for gently guiding them in their everyday learning activities during Circle Time, Play Time, Work Time, Story Time to provide a solid foundation in their scholastic sojourn. Constantly upgrading and raising the bar in all the areas of learning has become the school’s mantra. Parents also feel very connected with this school via their meaningful parenting forums, activities and volunteering opportunities.

Last year, the Montessori program was beautifully and effectively handled online by their resilient facilitators with the same gentle feel and personalization as in a regular day at school. The children adapted well to the new learning module and were very happy to meet their teachers and peers via the new medium. All the academic material was presented well in both one-on-one and small group online sessions. Value classes were held regularly for the children to understand emotions better via stories, demonstrations, discussions with the children, apt songs to highlight the essence of good human values like caring, sharing, love, peace, honesty, sensitivity, respect, etc. Bright Beginnings also included extracurricular activities such as special online music sessions, an online enactment of a drama with the script put together by the children, and interesting online theatre sessions to kindle the children’s imagination using various props. The school celebrated all the festivals online with the same fervour and it was a great feeling for the children to reminisce about the in-school celebrations over their early childhood years. The children even sowed saplings and tended their individual garden patches in the safest way possible and harvested organic vegetables at the end of the school term. All this was achieved within the Montessori framework of ‘follow the child’, ‘respect the child’, and offline activities for music and movement, practical life, and art and craft were designed well. These experiences kept the learning fun and real for these Montessorians.

The grand finale was their kindergarten graduation ceremony so elegantly conducted online, leaving the children with lovely memories of their first Alma Mater. They hope to meet and connect with their teachers in person at the earliest available opportunity.

 

AKANKSHA RANA - MOTHER OF JAIV (OCTOBER 2020)

" Joining bright beginnings has been one of the best decisions we made for our toddler son. Not only are the classes fun and engaging, it’s a great learning experience for both the child and the parent. My son looks forward to meeting his ‘Mams’ every week and I look forward to the circle time which has helped us become better / more aware parents . The teachers don’t take this as a job or a task in the checklist but as a responsibility which they love and that’s evident in the care and attention they give to each child. I am now looking forward to starting the next session with Bright Beginnings. "

NAYANA NANCY - MOTHER OF JOHN (OCTOBER 2020)

" Hi, I am Nayana Nancy. My son John Joseph had attended the toddler program in Bright Beginnings continuously for three quarters once he turned 2 years. Once John joined the program, we became part of the Bright Beginnings family. The most outstanding factor in Bright Beginnings was the positive environment created by each and every member of Bright Beginnings. The care, understanding, and acceptance they provide to each kid is very evident and visible. All the staff members are very cordial and loving and they have a lot of experience in the Montessori training methods. They encourage the kids to be themselves and provide them enough time to naturally open-up to the new environment and later they start exploring the program to the fullest. The earlier learnings of colours, shapes, rhymes were made easy through circle-time, story-time and the Montessori activities provided to them. The group discussion conducted for the parents is certainly a platform to learn about effective ways of parenting and parents can share their experiences and concerns to the expert team of Bright Beginnings and utilize their suggestions and guidance in their parenting journey. We are extremely happy about the toddler program and would highly recommend it to other toddler parents too. "

NANDITA AND PRASHANT - PARENTS OF YUVAAN (OCTOBER 2020)

"We are very happy to see Yuvaan grow into this lovable, cheerful, confident and independent child and we can't be thankful enough for the love, care and life education that he has received and continues to receive at Bright Beginnings even during this pandemic!

To be honest, we were a bit apprehensive about a "virtual montessori-based learning program" when it was decided that Bright Beginnings would follow a blended (offline-online) virtual learning program during the pandemic. However, the whole process of engaging with the parents and seeking their views via surveys and constant feedback has really helped in refining the whole virtual learning experience for all concerned, and we are happy that this is being done in the best possible manner given the circumstances.

We truly believe that Yuvaan is fortunate to have received this wonderful start. Yuvaan too loves going to Bright Beginnings and what better proof of it than "Mumma, I really really really really want to go to school... why is this coronavirus not going away

We are so happy that he is happy going to Bright Beginnings as his happiness means the world to us! So, Thank you, Again! "

SNEHA AND TARUN - PARENTS OF ANUHA (NOVEMBER 2020)

"With no clear sight of schools re-opening, we were unable to visualize a virtual learning program, more so in a Montessori environment. Bright Beginnings took a measured approach to the situation and ensured advice from academic experts, inputs from parents and advisories from government authorities were considered before chalking out the way forward.

The school ensured detailed communication and training on the learning platform (Google Classroom) and digital safety guidelines. As the lockdown eased, the school also ensured supplies kit was made available to parents. Class schedules continue to be shared with meticulous precision – no failed meetings till date.

To balance out the limited online sessions, the school devised theme-based activities. The school also shared guidelines to assess a child’s interest/performance on any given activity. To ensure a well-rounded learning experience, the school also bought back music classes and parenting forums.

The school has been very empathetic of the situation parents are in. Deep gratitude to all the teachers who are balancing their family commitments along with their roles as teachers. A big thank you to everyone at Bright Beginnings for adapting to the online format, for continuously adapting, and for so patiently hand holding us through the process. "

HIRAL AND DIVYANSH MISHRA - PARENTS OF KAVEER DIVYANSH MISHRA (OCTOBER 2020)

" We started our school in November, 2019 and within a few months lockdown happened. State government passed different rules at different intervals. But each time the Bright Beginnings team came up with modules for online-offline learning. We found that the Modules focussed on a child’s different skills development such as cognition, visual perception, fine motor, gross motor, pre-writing skills, writing skills, language, music, phonics, science experiment and maths.

We really appreciate all the efforts by the Bright Beginnings team in making learning so much fun with sensorial and practical life-based activities. We appreciate the Bright Beginnings team as they see the child as an individual and based on the child's interests and needs, they try to modify their teaching strategies.

They take good care of a child's emotional needs which is a rarity. We are really grateful to Team BB for all their efforts and for helping us in nurturing our little one. "

SWATI RAGHUNANDAN AND T. V RAMANATHAN - PARENTS OF LOKANAYAKI TENKASI (OCTOBER 2020)

" Ram and I feel we have made the right choice by admitting our daughter to Bright Beginnings Montessori Preschool in September 2020. Our research on schools had been a very interesting one. The normal parameters for decision making would not work in pandemic times where schools were operating virtually. We were however very clear that we wanted a Montessori set up for our daughter. Being part of many mothers’ support groups, I have come to learn that Montessori school of thought if done in the purest form allows for children to learn through playing independently in a nurturing environment in their key learning years of 3-6. No rote learning, no expectations of memorizing without understanding. We need that in these crucial early years of a child and had to make the right choice as parents to provide the best environment. In our research, we found that Bright Beginnings provides what we need for our child. After researching 5-6 schools in Whitefield, we zeroed down on this school. We were supported by the admission team who answered all our queries promptly and kindly. In our initial interactions, we felt this school really cares about kids and the Montessori way of learning. Our daughter since day 1 has been well engaged with her teachers. Regular 30 mins virtual sessions with different formats (1:1s with Teachers, Show & Tell and Circle time, storytelling) have Lokanayaki learning different parts of practical life & emotions/feelings. Weekly songs & home activities keep mommy and daughter happy and delighted to learn through playing & singing together. Our mornings start with singing songs on different topics and ends with interesting activities. My husband and I are blessed to have found this school of caring & nurturing teachers who work hard in these pandemic times to show love and care through the Montessori Curriculum. Thank you, Bright Beginnings. "

PRIYANKA AND RAHUL JAIN - PARENTS OF KAIRA JAIN (OCTOBER 2020)

" During this unprecedented situation, Bright Beginnings has showered blessings upon us and our little one by providing a virtual learning program.This online learning program has helped Kaira stay connected with her friends and teachers. Kaira has really enjoyed all the offline theme activities and the daily classes. These activities have been a great learning experience for Kaira and for us as parents too .

Kaira always looks forward to attending the classes, be it a regular class, transition class, value class or music class. All the teachers have put in great effort and it’s evident with every class and assignment .

Thank you so much. So proud and happy to be a part of Bright Beginnings. We can’t wait for the school to reopen so we can enroll our son as well. "

CHHAVI AND AKHILESH - PARENTS OF AGASTYA BHARDWAJ (OCTOBER 2020)

" Started as a temporary measure in everyone’s hope for normalcy, virtual learning has quickly become the norm for learning for all kids. This must have presented an unprecedented challenge to our School, especially with the Montessori way of hands on learning

We can clearly see the tireless efforts and time that must have been invested in designing every theme from scratch, forming assignments and the education material for virtual class sessions. Every material is meticulously prepared and drafted to suit the needs of a particular kid.

Online sessions and assignments are highly interactive and still try to follow Montessori core philosophy of self-directed play, as far as possible.The online sessions are not rushed into, are easy on the clock and in our view the best substitute to actual physical school learning.

On top of that, the warmth and smile on our teacher’s face are all welcoming for the children, who are quickly getting used to the new normal.
The weekly assignments, if performed as intended, provide an excellent learning tool for children in these times. And we as parents are also continuously learning and getting into the role of being “Montessori teachers”.

As a testament of our son’s interest and passion towards the weekly activities, he will leave almost anything in between, whenever we say it’s “activity time”. Except for probably when he is having a rosagulla, which is above all for him.

In this unprecedented year, we truly believe that our son is making the most of the available opportunities to learn new things. This has only reiterated our faith in joining the Bright Beginnings family. Kudos to Aruna Ma’am, Alaka Ma’am, Rashmi Ma’am, our son’s Class teachers Shikha Ma’am & Mathangi Ma’am and all other staff who make the sessions/activities possible. "

MRINALINI JAITLY AND ADITYA BANDIMATT - PARENTS OF SWARA BANDIMATT (OCTOBER 2020)

" Both of us knew from the day we walked into Bright Beginnings that this has to be the pre-school for our daughter! Every aspect of BB is perfect but the best are the teachers who are molding our daughter. The focus, attention to detail, professionalism and energy they bring is laying the right foundation for our daughter's future. When the lockdown started, we were worried about all the nurturing she would be missing from her teachers. But the teachers at BB have been so passionate and creative, they have designed an impressive and customized virtual program right for every child! Thanks to BB and its wonderful teachers, we are making the best out of this lockdown! "

SWATI PRAKASH - MOTHER OF LAKSHYA (MA-PA & ME TODDLER PROGRAM, OCTOBER 2020)

" The Virtual Toddler program at Bright Beginnings has been a wonderful experience for toddlers and parents alike. Each session's activities are centered around a particular theme, which is well planned and it keeps the children engaged throughout, even through the virtual platform.
The parenting forum, which follows the toddler session, is truly an enriching experience to attend.
The topics discussed at the forum are very relevant, easy to understand and can also give us answers to some challenging situations related to parenting. "

NEHA JAIN – MOTHER OF MEDHAAVI (JUNE 2019)

" Learning comes to a kid as flying comes to a bird. Long before I had kids, I read this line in an article on Montessori education and I had dreamt of putting my future kids in a Montessori school. Little I did know that I would be so lucky to find such a good Montessori school so close to my home. While many schools claim to practice Montessori mode of education, BB follows it both in letter and true in spirit.My daughter loves to learn, books are her best friend and her curiosity is undiminished, thanks to Bright Beginnings. Here she learnt not only numbers, continents and grammar, she learnt how to enjoy learning which stays with her even after she left. The positive influence of BB doesn't stop here. We feel that we have evolved into better human beings thanks to BB. The importance of enjoying the race rather than winning it is one key value that enriches our life. The numerous parenting sessions have helped us understand our kids better and form a great connection with them. Not to mention the friendships we have formed with the like minded parents we met here. It was not just a school for our daughter, also a way of life for us. "

Rajiv Ranjan – Father of Shivaan and Lakshya (November 2018)

" Both our boys, Shivaan and Lakshya have been part of Bright Beginnings and we consider ourselves fortunate and blessed to be associated with the school. Aruna Ma'am,Rashmi Ma'am and the entire team have been like a family to us and to our little boys.The attention to detail and focus on allround development through classroom learning, co-ordinated play time, art, music, exposure to nature, teaching basic etiquette,events for kids, etc. makes Bright Beginnings the perfect place where you would like your lil one to start his/her journey.Also the focus is not only on the child but also to educate Parents through sessions and participation in different activities.Thanks to Bright Beginnings ...We have become better parents too!! "

Rajiv Ranjan – Father of Shivaan and Lakshya (November 2018)

" Both our boys, Shivaan and Lakshya have been part of Bright Beginnings and we consider ourselves fortunate and blessed to be associated with the school. Aruna Ma'am,Rashmi Ma'am and the entire team have been like a family to us and to our little boys.The attention to detail and focus on allround development through classroom learning, co-ordinated play time, art, music, exposure to nature, teaching basic etiquette,events for kids, etc. makes Bright Beginnings the perfect place where you would like your lil one to start his/her journey.Also the focus is not only on the child but also to educate Parents through sessions and participation in different activities.Thanks to Bright Beginnings ...We have become better parents too!! "

Vaijayanthi Bhat – Mother of Ankita (Facebook 12th November 2018)

"I couldn't have asked for a better start for my daughter, a home away from home, a loving and secure environment for your child to grow and learn in. With the focus not just being academics, but making the kids independent and confident while instilling values in them. Aruna’s love for what she is doing clearly reflects in everything they do and seems to be contagious with all the teachers and support staff. My daughter still asks to go back to her old school to spend the day when she has a day off from her regular school and they welcome her with the same loving attitude every single time."

Kumudha Ammanur Gomatam – Mother of Dheekshanya (Facebook, 30th Jan 2017)

" This was my son's second school after a brief stop at Neev, Whitefield. It is impossible to overstate the brilliance of Bright Beginnings. Bright Beginnings is an absolutely professional, invitingly warm and wisely understanding learning environment. Ms.Aruna, an impassioned and sensitive educator has chiseled this awesome second home for kids."

Supriya Kini – Mother of Naomi (Facebook, 31stJuly, 2014)

" I truly would give this school more than 5 stars if I could. My child graduates this year and I know that the wonderful being she is growing up to be has everything to do with the school, it's teachers and it's mission. A true Montessori school with a holistic approach towards learning, all children here are individuals recognized for being unique in their abilities and beliefs. Aptly named, it's truly been a bright beginning for my child. I would highly recommend a visit to the school if you have a child ready to start school soon."

Lata Goenka – Mother of Shivay (Fcebook, 30th August, 2017)

" Bright Beginnings is a home away from home for children. The warm and nurturing environment is just what kids need at this young age to develop independence, confidence and other life skills. Each member of the entire BB family is devoted and focused on making these first few years in a child's life, truly special. This has been the best decision I have taken for my child so far. "

Pranitha Penmetsa – Mother of Dhruv(24th November, 2018)

" I feel blessed to have been associated with Bright Beginnings both as a parent and as a teacher. Bright Beginnings Montessori Preschool is a great combination of the incredible Montessori methodology and the value education that they offer to the children. The positivity of the environment and the warmth of the teachers and the staff at the school still remains the same as it was fifteen years ago. Their belief system that each child is special in their own way does imbibe confidence and self-worth in the children at a very young age"

Shaila Gaur – Mother of Mira (28th November, 2018)

" Thanks to the devoted team at Bright Beginnings, my daughter’s first experience of school is a memory she will always cherish.

She was appreciated for her own special and unique qualities and given a strong foundation by loving, enthusiastic and dedicated teachers.

I would strongly recommend Bright Beginnings to parents looking to give their child the best possible introduction to the world of learning."

Vijayasri Rao – Mother of Keshav and Madhura (29th November 2018)

"The Montessori curriculum at Bright Beginnings is designed to create joyful and effective learning experiences for young children. Here, children explore and interact with different learning materials at their own pace and develop an innate love for learning. My twins started school here as toddlers when they were 18 months old in the Parent-Toddler Program and then moved on to the Montessori Preschool Program when they were 2 and ½ years old. They are growing beautifully in this loving and nurturing environment. Kudos to their dedicated teachers and caretakers for gently guiding them in their everyday learning activities during Circle Time, Play Time, Work Time and Story Time to give them a solid foundation in their scholastic sojourn. Constantly upgrading and raising the bar in all the areas of learning has become the school’s mantra. Parents also feel very connected with this school via their parenting forums, activities and volunteering opportunities. I also wish I were a student of Mast Tree, Temple Tree or Bottle Brush class environments. Thank you, Bright Beginnings for playing such an integral role in all our lives. Hearty Congratulations for the school’s 15th Anniversary and wishing many more memorable milestones in the years to come. "

Aparna Vadde - Mother of Samyukta (5th December, 2018)

"A team of very cheerful and caring teachers, a serene setting, immaculately clean and well maintained, where peace descends as you walk in, a joyous place where children blossom into confident, happy and well rounded individuals -- that is Bright Beginnings in a nutshell, true to its name. The tiny tots (and parents :-)) get magically drawn to BB when they go through the toddler program. The Montessori training that they get thereafter, where they experientially learn important life skills and timeless values of being systematic, disciplined, caring for others and connecting with nature, hold them in good stead long after they graduate from Bright Beginnings. It's a place that both children and parents cherish being part of: my daughter looked forward to attending school every morning and missed it sorely during summer vacations. My husband and I have got many a valuable tip in parenting from our interactions with the teachers at BB, who are more than happy to help in any aspect related to the development of the child. In short, we thoroughly value the Bright Beginnings experience and will recommend it very strongly. "

Sheeja – Mother of Tulsi and Thea (29th November, 2018)

"Often experiences of deep impact leave us speechless. Words that would do justice to our learning, emotions and feelings end up a cliché or a truth misconstrued as hyperbole.

As we continue to explore our association with Bright Beginnings through the last twelve years, I realize the name of the school couldn't have been more apt. You could journey as long as you wish and the school would continue to touch your lives. My children have received the best foundation they could have. Often one would hesitate to say 'the best', but I confidently say so.

This Montessori school is a place where great methodology, uncompromised quality and a near perfect wholesome environment come together. Great care, attention to detail and excellent teachers not only qualified in their role; but sincere in intent, professional in their conduct with a warm sensitive disposition towards their little children make this place a beautiful environment to nurture the kids academically, emotionally and in all ways they shall grow up to be. Its so precious a sight every time, to see the children bond with their teachers with loads of genuine love and affection.

The essence of Bright Beginnings is that it not only moulds the children, but it helps the parent community evolve in the way they bring up their children, nurture their family and become better people.

All that I write above may seem like a thought out essay, but it isn’t. In fact the truth of this one of a kind institution is asking of such words. Bright Beginnings has moulded our children and has changed 'us' to become better people, and progress in our thinking and action.

We learn a lot from our children we often say, and when the children learn from a great environment, the overall experience is an unexplainable story, a lifelong one.

The teachers especially Aruna Ma'am and Rashmi Ma'am are an inspiration. Watching them over more than a decade, their drive to become something more, be who they truly are, with relentless sincerity and undiluted passion is a great take away for every individual who walks into Bright Beginnings.

I am fortunate that our family continues to learn and grow with this beautiful school. "

Nivedita – Mother of Arnav (29th November, 2018)

"Bright Beginnings is truly a second home not only to our four-year old but to my family. The environment of love, patience and respect for each child is what makes this school a top favorite of ours. Our little one has transformed from being a reluctant toddler who so didn’t want to go to school, to someone who doesn't want to come home now. He also doesn't want to graduate to a bigger school. That's the magic of being in Bright Beginnings. Needless to say the teachers are one of a kind. We are grateful that we are a part of the BB family."

Kavita Chandran Budhraja

" True to its name, this is the brightest beginning you could ever give to your child as he or she enters school years. Our little girl, an alum of Bright Beginnings, is now a 2nd grader in Singapore and still talks about her ‘Mast Tree' class.

Kiara's first exposure to school was the Wednesday toddler sessions in BB, a must-do for anyone with a curious tot eager to learn, sway, sing and most of all do it with Mommy or Daddy. What always amazed us was how quiet the school would be – hard to believe there were 45 tiny beings inside, all working meticulously in their Montessori environment with their building blocks, books, beads, lemon strainers and all things that can provide fodder to a little child's imagination. The sense of discipline and respect inculcated during early stages has lived on – a lot of that comes from the respect the child sees inside the school between Aruna and her wonderful set of teachers. That rhythm can get infectious. There are things taught that Kiara still remembers, for example we have a secret phrase "Do the Ajji Ma'am" when she cleans her face after brushing – a hygiene tactic taught by her class teacher at BB.

I'd recommend Bright Beginnings to anyone who's looking to ease their child into a school that has an international environment, encourages self discipline and above all thrives on love and respect. "

Anubhuti Srivastava

"Both my children have spent their early years at Bright Beginnings. Bright Beginnings has paid special attention to the minutest details, to make a child's 'maiden' experience into the world of education a memorable beginning. My kids have now grown up but they still remember the school and the teachers very well. One distinct thing about the school that I remember is that it does not just focus on Montessori education alone but also on life skills. My younger one has also attended the mother-toddler program and used to look forward to going for the same. Till date, Bright Beginnings continues to be my ideal Montessori school."

Surabhi Daharwal

"We miss Bright Beginnings very much. It is a wonderful and nurturing environment where kids open up, learn academics as well as life skills. We wish our kids could be here longer. Both our kids were in this school for 3+ years. Anusha was attending a Montessori in Northern Virginia and we were looking for a similar school for her when we moved to India. Bright Beginnings was our answer. Teachers helped her transition and she adjusted beautifully and felt comfortable from day one. After graduating and going to a bigger school for over a month every day she would ask us if she could go back to Bright Beginnings and she yet misses all her teachers. Our younger daughter was very quiet in school (exactly the opposite of how she was at home) in the beginning for quite a long time, so much so that we got worried if the Montessori approach was the right one for her. All the teachers at Bright Beginnings including Ms. Aruna were confident and gave us the assurance that this was the right environment for Himayani. Sure enough, this is just what happened in time and we are so glad we decided to keep her in the Montessori and more importantly in Bright Beginnings.

Both our daughters love to go back to visit Bright Beginnings every chance they get and spend time in the classrooms. They still feel they belong there."

Swati Amritkar on June 26th, 2012

"When Dhruv sees a nano he say, "Like my Chris Ma'am." He misses Pragati Ma'am's and Aruna Ma'am's singing. He will say, "Mama don't sing like this. You must listen to how ma'am sings." We will definitely drop into school whenever we are in Bangalore."

A Parent's Note soon after the Sports Day on January 25th, 2013

" I would like to applaud Aruna Ma'am, all the teachers and all those behind the scenes for making the Sports Day really a memorable and enjoyable event.

I should admit that I was little skeptical in the morning on how a sports day in a "small lawn" would be, after seeing sports day celebrations at my daughter's school in a big ground.

You proved today that "size" doesn't matter. The entire event was very well choreographed and very well organized. Excellent performances from such small kids shows the amount of effort that has gone in from all the teachers to make it happen. Above all, all the kids thoroughly enjoyed it.

I was very surprised to see that the focus of many of the kids were on completing the activities part of the race without being worried about first / second place.

I personally think that this is a very valuable lesson you are imparting at such a young age.

Congratulations again and looking forward to more such events."

A thank-you note from a Parent in September 2012.

"It has been absolutely lovely having our daughter at Bright Beginning and interacting with all the members of the school. There are few places where the love for teaching, learning and discovering is apparent, like it is in your school. Besides shaping a lot of what our daughter is as a person today, it has given both me and my husband loads of perspective and shaped us as parents! "